Last week’s post was about consuming pop culture with a fine mixture of irony and sincerity which is fine for the small stuff. Not that I’m suggesting that the state of T-Swift’s hair is, by any means, small. What I mean is, pick your irony battles wisely. Whenever I do something ironically and then have to explain my choices to a confused audience, I get raised eyebrows and a sinking feeling in my stomach. “That’s not what I meant!” is often the thing that comes out of my mouth and the result is hurt feelings. This is often the case after having committed to a joke-bit for so long that people can’t tell whether I’m earnestly doing the stupid thing. Thus, hurt feelings.There was a week where I tossed around the idea of wearing only animal print leggings and glitter tank tops. The following month was full of explanations.
More seriously, it doesn’t matter whether drunk or sober, don’t do things ironically, if it’s a thing that can result in the hurt feelings of someone you love.
It’s not that cool. Now, it might be fun to listen to Taylor Swift songs on repeat, “ironically,” but don’t approach all things that way. Never, and I mean never, ever go on a date ironically. If that person finds out that your “yes” to pizza and a beer was a joke, you’ll have sincerely hurt and rejected someone in the same way you’ve probably been hurt before. Don’t approach love or friendships with thick senses of irony because, soon, you’re going to have trouble discerning where the irony stops and where you begin. Your insides will feel like messy spaghetti and the hearts of all you’ve hurt will be the pasta sauce. Gross? Good. I’ve made my point.
Doing things sincerely and enthusiastically isn’t lame. It’s harder, but it’s not lame. When you do things sincerely, you open yourself up to new experiences. If you don’t treat other people’s feelings like punch lines to jokes, you might find a new way to understand the people around you.
Now, I’m not saying, “be super serious about everything, always” because that’s ridiculous and overly boring. I am saying to give the things that matter weight in your life and to be enthusiastic about them. The things you’re interested in, the people you keep around you, your family, and pets (though no 20-somethings should own pets, but that’s a post for another week). Joke about things, play, and frolic while listening to Lana Del Rey, but don’t harm anyone while you do those things, girl.