My boyfriend’s 4 year old sister is a pest whenever I’m over at his house. She is constantly in our space. She is basically the 3rd wheel whenever I’m over. He is too scared to discipline her, and his mom takes her side. What can I do to save me and my boyfriend’s alone time while I’m at his house?
-Third-Wheeled by a 4 year old
Dear Third Wheeled by a 4 year old,
Kids are really difficult to say no to. I suggest you tell your boyfriend to be a little more strict with his sister. If she’s really close to him, she may listen to him. If she still doesn’t listen, try compromising with her. Ask her to color you a picture, and tell her you don’t want to see it until she’s done. Play a game with her, and then ask her after if you and her brother can be alone. If the problem persists, then maybe you and your boyfriend need to find another place to hangout. Take a walk around your neighborhood, go to a coffee shop, visit the zoo. Not only do those opportunities get you away from the house, they can better your relationship with your boyfriend.
I’m one of the only girls in my circle who is single. It seems like weddings, engagements, and babies are popping out of everywhere, and I’m sitting at home watching reality television. What can I do to get out of this “single sucks” fever?
-Single and I guess not ready to mingle
Dear, Single and I guess not ready to mingle,
I’m single and I couldn’t be more happy to have my early 20’s marriage —and baby— free. I have no parental responsibilities or marital stress. I can go out when I please, flirt with whomever I want (although I’m terrible at it), and just learn about myself and who I am. Instead of worrying about who is getting married, getting engaged, or having a baby, try figuring yourself out. Learn who YOU truly are. Take up a new hobby, write a poem (and submit it to Bound of course), smile more, volunteer at a shelter, or whatever makes you happy! There is plenty of time in life to get married, and have kids. Sure, you may want someone to kiss and cuddle every once in awhile. Those are normal feelings. I always tell myself and other single friends, if it’s meant to be, it will be. Everything happens for a reason. Love yourself and the right person will come along and love you like no other.
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