I’ve been with my boyfriend for a little over 2 years. Lately, I haven’t been feeling the same spark as I did when we first started dating. When I kissed him, I felt butterflies every time. Now, I’d rather read a book than hang out with him. Is it time to call it quits?
-Not So Lost In Love
Dear, Not So Lost In Love
I wouldn’t pull the plug too quickly. Try communicating with your boyfriend on how you are feeling. If your relationship is healthy and you two trust each other, he should listen to you and understand. Try something new with your boyfriend. Do something together that both of you haven’t done before. If the spark still isn’t there, then it may be the sign of the end. Call it quits if you don’t love him anymore, because it’s selfish to keep him hanging. Do what’s best for the both of you. What’s meant to be will always find its way.
I am the laziest person ever. I never want to study, go to work, or any kind of activity that forces me to leave my bed and my laptop. My grades are starting to drop, and my family keeps telling me to get myself together. What can I do to break out of this laziness?
Dear, Lazy Girl
It sounds like you need a little motivation. So, I’m going to give it you. You have to fight for what you want. Nothing gets done sitting around daydreaming about you. You have to make your dreams come true. All it takes is the first step. Hard work isn’t just beneficial. It’s also an attractive quality. Start with giving yourself a goal. For example, say “I’ll study for my chapter test tonight”, and if you do, reward yourself with an hour of TV. Get an agenda and write down everything you need to do. Highlighting parts in different colors always helps me out. Turn off all electronics for an hour each day. You can get a lot done when you aren’t texting, Facebooking, or watching Netflix. Most importantly, take care of yourself and be your own motivation. No one else in this world can help you be the best you can be, but yourself. Now get up, and get working!
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