I’m dating a heartless babe magnet. He’s gorgeous! In my eyes he’s the bee’s knees. We’ve never been exclusive or official though. We grab coffee, hang out with my friends, and he’s the only one I care to kiss and sleep with since October. He seems to be dating everyone except for me though! I don’t know what he sees in those other people but it doesn’t work out for him, since I’ve known him he’s been through two relationships that didn’t last very long. Within those relationships, he was seeing me throughout. I realized I liked him for more than I originally thought I had. I really want to be the one that gets to call him my boyfriend, he’s already getting all the benefits my boyfriend would! Should I bide my time in asking him out, or is that a dangerous possibility that would end what we have now?
- Rose-Tinted Glasses
Dear Rose-Tinted Glasses,
I think this guy is having his cake and eating it, too. A guy that is worth your time wants you and ONLY you. You are his first priority, not his last option. Sure, he’s gorgeous. I know plenty of gorgeous men, and you know what? The majority (but not all) of them are assholes that think they can take advantage of a good girl and get away with it. Unless you are totally down for just hooking up with this guy, he totally isn’t worth your time. If he truly wanted a relationship, he would ask for one.
I realize I’m not Martha Stewart or anything but what’s a good approach on talking to my roommate about consistently keeping our house clean? Everytime I mention a chore I sound irritable (without meaning to be) and it creates tension. Advice?
-Not Martha Stewart
Dear Not Martha Stewart,
A good approach to this situation is to sit down with your roommate over dinner and discuss what exactly you think is unclean or untidy within your space. Mention nicely as hard as it may be for you to clean up whatever mess he or she makes. Tell your roommate you share the space, and that comes with sharing responsibilities. You both are adults, and you both should know what the difference between a tidy place and a messy place is. If the problem persists, it may be time to shop for a new roommate that meets your needs and expectations.
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